NeedShare is intended to help locate what need is alive in you at the present moment. Unlike just looking at a static list of feeling words or even need words, NeedShare intentionally randomizes the words every time you load the page allowing for a more natural sense of self discovery. While scanning the randomized list pay attention to any words that stand out to you. By having to intentionally find and select a word you are actively putting a name to what is going on within you (which can be very life giving on it’s own). 

NeedShare offers several places for us to start on these little journeys of self-discovery. We are often educated to think in terms of evaluations; judgements of ourselves and of others. NeedShare describes these evaluations as Situations. This is perhaps the most intuitive place to start for many of us. By selecting a situation you’ll be shown commonly associated feelings and needs. The goal, ultimately, is to find your way to a need that is resonating with your present experience.

Once you’ve arrived at a basic need you will see potential strategies others have utilized when experiencing this need. My hope is that you do not experience these as some kind of cure or solution to your present experience, rather I wish that we only see we are not alone in this experience. That folks all over the world experience exactly this same need and they try many things to tend to it.

It is my belief that our needs are gifts whether or not they are presently met. This means that our needs are not burdens or problems that ought to be solved. Sometimes even when we get in touch with our needs we may try a strategy that we are hopeful will tend to it, only to discover that the strategy did not seem to contribute to the need we had in mind. This is only problematic if we experience our needs as problems to be solved. We do not want to get trapped in the world of attempting to manage our emotions. My view is that feelings/emotions are the language of needs. This means that when an emotion comes up we can begin to ask “who is speaking?” We can become inwardly curious to hear which need has something to stay to us. We can then become grateful that the need spoke up at all even if no strategies are coming to our mind for tending to it.

My hope is that NeedShare can not only be a place for self-discovery and finding new strategies but also that we might experience life merely by seeing that we are not alone in having these needs because all of us, in fact, share them.